So I just got done watching “How to Be Single” and I was actually impressed with the movies conclusions. At the end it talked about how being single is the time to get good at being alone, but it also talked about how there is also the danger of becoming too comfortable with being single that we miss out on the chance to be with someone really great. I loved that! Living in the BYU bubble I have been hit with this thought many times. I think there is an art to being single and finding the joy in that journey. I know that finding someone to marry is a very important step in anyone’s life, but so is the time we have being single.
Now just to be clear I am not advocating prolonging singleness, I am just an advocate for learning to enjoy that time. I think sometimes, especially in the LDS culture, we put SO much stress on the need to be married that we make being single a time of shame, guilt and sadness. It becomes a time of misery because we feel we have no purpose unless we are married. Sometimes we even feel that our worth is less because we are not going on dates, or we feel like something is wrong with us because no one seems to want to date us. In “How to Be Single” it talked about cherishing that time that you do have to be single. Now is the time we have to work on ourselves and become the best version of our selves that we can be. This time is the time where we get to prepare for the future and you should not have to feel ashamed because you are single. There is nothing wrong with that. You get to be single! After all everyone is single at some point in their life. Being single means that you can focus on all the other relationships in your life: your roommates, classmates, friends, family and you get to work on your relationship with yourself! So I am starting a new resolution: I am going to be ok being single! I get to be happy now, on my own. I get to do the things that I want to do and the things that make me happy. I get to discover hobbies and things that I like and dislike, and who knows along the way I might find Mr. Right, but if not, I will be OK. Because it is ok to be single! And, may I make one more point? I am only freaking 22 years old. In the grand scheme of things I am a small child! The only thing that I really know is that I still have so much to learn and that this period of my life is a defining one. So I am choosing to be OK being single and to be happy during this time and I invite you to do the same!
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